Reasons Why She’s Faking It

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I’m about to shatter a lot of bubbles right now: I fake it. A lot. Like, 90 percent of the time, actually. In fact...most women fake orgasm at least sometimes, according to recent research from Canada. Sorry. No, but actually I am sorry. This is a horrible habit that some women have gotten into and it’s something we need to break. Immediately. I’ll tell you a little story:

I thought I was a master of the fake orgasm. My performances were Meryl Streep level. Or so I thought. A most recent encounter with someone I genuinely care about left me feeling horrible when he looked at me and asked, “Did you just fake it?” I couldn’t lie to him. And the look of defeat and shame on his face is one that I will never forget. Then, of course, it made me wonder how many other guys knew I was faking it...and perhaps didn’t really care about me or my experience to say anything. Basically it was a terrible day for my self-esteem, and one I’d like to avoid. Which is why women everywhere need to put away their trusty scripts of moaning and exaggerated gyrating and just tell the damn truth.

First of all, when she’s faking an orgasm, who is that helping? Nobody. It’s stroking a man’s ego, making him think he is doing everything right and giving him a false sense of security and confidence. And it’s leaving us unsatisfied. What we really should be doing is being honest about what exactly we like. But easier said than done. Truth be told, some of us don’t really know. The reality is that many women cannot get off from intercourse alone. Finding the elusive G-spot may be just as difficult for us, so while we’d love to tell our partners just how to find it, the truth is maybe we haven’t discovered it ourselves. (For a comprehensive guide to her anatomy, plus step-by-step instructions on how to give her an orgasm, check out this Men's Health sex manual.)

So why do we fake orgasm? A variety of reasons. And believe it or not, not all of it has to do with your performance. Sometimes it’s just not going to happen, and we want to spare your feelings.

“I would have to say anytime I’ve faked it was because I knew it just wasn’t going to happen, and he was REALLY trying and I felt like it was easier to fake it and preserve his feelings.” - Lauren, 31

“You need to play with my little button to do the trick. Sex is never going to make me come.” - Susan, 30 (She's talking about her clitoris. Here are 13 things you can do to it.)

“Sometimes you just don’t want to explain, or change positions to make it happen. Could it be laziness? Maybe. Sometimes you just want to get it over with and give the man a good feeling,” - Rachel, 29

“I think I’ve faked it so many times that I’m surprised if a guy actually takes his time to treat me, and I don’t have to play along. They usually don’t know how to do it,” - Greta, 30

“I’m either too nervous and like you too much and therefore can’t relax, OR you just straight up don’t know what you’re doing,” - Sally, 31

“I have a lot of trouble getting off when I’m drinking. But that’s when I have no inhibitions and want to be theatrical and turn the guy on with hot moves, sexy moans, and an all out ‘orgasm,’ even though I’m too drunk to get off. It’s kind of just fun for everyone.” - Brooke, 30

“There was the ONE time he was going down on me and I had really bad gas, so I faked it so that I could stop holding it in.” - Elizabeth, 31

“I have faked it for a variety of reasons. First, I know you’re trying really hard and I want you to know that I’m having fun, too. But usually I’m not going to come from sex, but you don’t understand that unless I orgasm. You aren’t doing a bad job at all and I am having fun. I just wish that you’d get me off with your mouth or hands first.” - Meagan, 29 (But...you know...a different Meagan who also spells her name the same way as me.)

For those of you wondering how to tell if your girlfriend is faking an orgasm, there are a few tell-tale signs: Overly exaggerated moans, screaming, carrying on for upwards of 15 minutes...basically anything you have seen in a porn is most likely fake. When a woman orgasms for real her mind goes completely blank. It’s a body convulsion and a wave of muscles tensing and relaxing all over her body. While some women are fantastic at the fake orgasm, if you are truly paying attention you’ll probably be able to tell.

For those of you out there who know she’s faking an orgasm, what should you do? Call it out. Yep, that’s right. Bite the bullet and address the situation. Obviously, you should be nice about it—the ultimate goal is for both of us to have better sex, right?

If you do call us out on it, the best thing you can do is ask us what you could do differently, or ask us what we might need in order to get off. We want you to take the time. We WANT to come. Addressing the problem is going to make us respect you that much more. And your expressed interest in the well-being of our vaginas is going to make you that much sexier.

The bottom line here? There are a lot of reasons why we aren’t going to come. Sometimes it is simply beyond your control. And for the times when it is entirely within your power, we are just as much to blame if we aren’t saying anything. So we really are sorry - for all of our sakes. That said, it’s now on you to get better. But don’t lose heart - we doubt you’re going to mind doing the research.

The Scientific Key to Giving Her Multiple Orgasms

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Only 47 percent of women have ever had multiple orgasms, according to a new study from researchers at Indiana University and the sex-ed site OMGYES.

Want to change that?

Researchers asked the women who have multiple orgasms exactly how they do it. Their big secret: They dial back the clitoral stimulation after their first climax.

First, some background. Three quarters of women either need or prefer clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, according to the study.

But for many women, the clitoris gets so sensitive after climax that continuing to touch it can feel uncomfortable or painful.

That’s why many women think they can’t have multiples: Because she needs clitoral stimulation to come, but continuing to touch her clitoris after her first orgasm hurts, the researchers note.

If your partner wants to try for round two, you can work around her post-climax sensitivity. Instead of touching her clitoris with the same intensity that you did to get her off the first time, use a lighter pressure or slower motions, which is what many of the subjects say works for them.

You can also use a technique the researchers call layering, which involves stimulating her clitoris through the hood that covers it or other surrounding skin rather than touching it directly.

Emails of nearly 1 billion people leaked in massive data breach

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The emails of nearly 1 billion people were leaked in what experts say is likely the biggest data breach of all time, according to reports.

At least 982 million users’ personal information was exposed during the tech firm Verifications.io’s massive privacy breach late last month, according to Unilad.co.uk.

The leaked data included names, birthdays and addresses along with details about users’ social media accounts and places of employment, the British outlet reported.

It put millions of users at risk of being hacked, spammed and taken advantage of by fraudsters.

An independent cybersecurity consultant, Bob Diachenko, was first to discover the problem in late February while tracking an unsecured 150GB database back to the company’s website.

“This is perhaps the biggest and most comprehensive email database I have ever reported,” he wrote on his blog. “Upon verification I was shocked at the massive number of emails that were publicly accessible for anyone with an internet connection.”

A total of 2 billion records were leaked during the incident, according to the tech news site HackRead.com.

Passwords and credit card details were not compromised, the site reported.

Verifications.io is generally used by marketing companies to check whether material sent in large group emails will bounce back.

Verifications.io’s website went dark after the massive privacy breach and was not up and running Friday. Reps for the firm couldn’t immediately be reached for comment.

People Can’t Stop Talking About Lady Gaga’s “Belly” and the Internet Is Not Having It

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Football was a thing last night, and besides witnessing the greatest comeback in Super Bowl history, people couldn’t stop talking about Lady Gaga’s halftime performance. She jumped into the freaking stadium and sang to the high heavens, all while swinging around on ropes and nailing what had to be the most intense cardio session of her life. A majority of her fans rejoiced, but some people didn’t seem to be too impressed by Gaga. Despite the fact that she’s spent months preparing and training for her time in the stadium spotlight, lots of viewers took to social media to point out Lady Gaga’s “gut,” “flab,” and “belly,” reports Fox News. 

Love @ladygaga even more for her normal yet still incredibly hot body she just rocked

— Casey Pruett (@CaseyJane05) February 6, 2017

While Gaga had an onslaught of support from her fans, last night proved that these types of remarks are far too common. What’s more, a recent University of Pennsylvania study shows that “body shaming” can actually make people sick. Researchers found that when people felt bad about their bodies, they were more likely to experience metabolic syndrome: a cluster of health issues that can put you at risk for heart disease and diabetes, most likely due to the way your body reacts to stress. While women are the main targets, they’re not the only ones: Male celebrities have been body shamed, too. 

Update: Lady Gaga recently fired back and responded to the hate on her Instagram.

She stated: “I heard my body is a topic of conversation so I wanted to say, I’m proud of my body and you should be proud of yours too. No matter who you are or what you do. I could give you a million reasons why you don’t need to cater to anyone or anything to succeed. Be you, and be relentlessly you. That’s the stuff of champions.”

Even Superheroes Can Use Some Styling

Chris Evans is the first one to admit that he's no style icon. “If I had it my way, I’d be in sweat pants,” jokes the 30 year-old actor best known for his wimpy-to-wow transformation as Marvel Comic hero Captain America.

While that role (and the same character in the much-anticipated sequel The Avengers) mostly required him to don a superhero suit or rip off his shirt, the Boston native has gotten a subtle style transformation courtesy of Italian luxury label, Gucci. As the leading man for their Gucci Guilty and Gucci Guilty Intense fragrance campaigns alongside sexy stunner Evan Rachel Wood, the admitted “jeans and T-shirt” guy has learned a few lessons on looking good, and more. Here’s what he says:

Use accessories to suit your needs
I probably wear more sunglasses than I used to. It sounds pretentious, but there’s no denying it that when you have them on, you feel a little more hidden.

More from MensHealth.com: See what sunglasses suit every face

If you’re not one to fuss, keep your hair simple
I love having a shaved head. I’d rather not deal with hair if I don’t have to. I like not thinking about it. A shaved head and letting my beard go requires the least amount of anything. Watch, I just jinxed myself and I’m going to go bald. Chris should read this before he panics.

But do fuss over this hair
I’m getting to that age where I have to make sure I don’t have any hairs poking out of my nose. You think you’re coming into your own and before you know it, you look into the mirror one day and think, “I’m getting hair in my ears?” I just dial that in.

More from MensHealth.com: Beat Your Body Hair

Look back on your mistakes with fondness, because they taught you what works
My worst hairstyle was a bowl cut parted down the middle. It was the 90s. It was what you did. I had that from 4th grade until freshman year in high school. I’m glad the pictures exist. I had great hair back then. I actually don’t think my hair could do that now.

Every man needs these three things in his closet

I’m a big fan of belts. You need a good one. They add a nice accent to your look. It’s a solid statement. Here are other accessories that matter.

A white T-shirt. It can complement so many things. It’s a classic.

More from MensHealth.com: The Ultimate T-Shirt Guide

A good pair of jeans. The trick is, when you try a good pair of jeans on, you may not think they’re that great, but you wear them two months and they become your favorite jeans. They’re tricky. You gotta let them live. 

More from MensHealth.com: Tips for Denim Care

Comfort and style can co-exist
I wore a pair of jeans not too long ago that had a little bit of stretch to them and it was great. There’s a difference between what I think looks good and what feels good.

Your style should evolve with your age
I’ve never been much of a fashion guy, but over the last few years I find myself a little more conscious.  Sometimes my friends are present when Gucci sends over clothes. They’re always interested in what I get. I’m like, “Guess what? We’re thirty now, guys. We can’t just wear baseball caps and hoodies.”

Sharing the spotlight can often be a good thing
There was a little less pressure to be fit on The Avengers than Captain America. I had just finished Captain America, so I was already built. Plus, Captain America has that one scene dramatic scene where my transformation is revealed. The Avengers has not one shirtless scene. For Captain America, I had a very grueling regimen. For The Avengers, I just didn’t want to get any smaller.

Who you work with can make all the difference
(About Gucci Guilty Intense co-star Evan Rachel Wood)

She’s a very cool girl. She’s just such a smart, talented, professional actress. She’s a child (I can say that because I’m 30). When I was 22, I was picking my nose—I mean, I don’t know what I was doing. She’s just something else.

Make a fitness resolution (even if you don’t keep it)
I have always wanted to get into yoga. I’m getting older and my body is starting to creak. I pull muscles all the time. But I’ve said that for the last five years. What do I do instead? Not yoga.