Discover How to Start Dating Again If It’s Been A While–Which Hack Will Work Best For You?
I know, I know — dating is hard.
Especially if you haven’t “played the field” in a while.
Different guys are at different stages in their romantic growth, and it’s a completely natural thing.
Maybe it’s at the beginning for you — you’ve just started trying to change this area in your life.
Or maybe you’ve been meeting women for a bit, and you’ve just started getting second dates.
Perhaps you’ve been getting dates and you’ve finally managed to get take-homes and sleepovers.
Wherever you are in the big picture, in the little picture, there are moments when you start to feel pressure or the weight of time. You can get burned out.
So today, I want to show you how to refresh, recharge, & refuel so you can overcome your burnout and get back in the ring.
How to Avoid “Sexual Burnout” & Get Your Head Back in The Game
I’ve talked about ways of releasing that kind of pressure before. Let’s recap them briefly.
After a date (regardless of whether it was good or bad), begin by asking yourself three questions:
- What went right…?
- How would you like things to go…?
- What are you going to do next time…?
And when you’re answering these questions, remember to look on the bright side.
I know and you know that sometimes, or maybe just eventually, you’re not going to feel so good about dating.
Maybe, instead of the questions I told you to ask, you’re asking, “What went wrong?”
And if you’re asking that question, chances are you are finding answers to it.
The result of that is, without a doubt, not a great feeling. And there’s no way in hell it’s going to boost your confidence.
In addition to that, even if you are following my prescriptions to the letter…
And returning from every interaction asking, “What went right?”…
There’s still a chance you’re going to experience burnout.
What happens then?
Well, when you’re in one of these darker moments, it means it’s time to refresh, recharge, and refuel.
But how do you do that?
The Secret to Feeling “Refreshed” & Ready to Start Dating Again
When I say “refresh,” I mean get out of the “It’s always like this” mindset.
Even if your last date went horribly, remember that not every date is like that.
Sometimes, things go really well.
For example, that whole group of girls seemed to like you one night…
Or maybe that hottie asked for your named before you had even made an effort to say “Hello”…
It could be as simple as you kissed a girl, and you really enjoyed it.
Find ways of starting over — respawn. You will know better than me how to do that, but here’s one of my best suggestions:
If you keep a journal, do a review of sorts.
Keep track of what happens in your life — both the good and the bad. Over time, you’ll begin to notice that things start to even out.
It Doesn’t End There…
If you re-read things in your journal that went well, remind yourself that you were responsible for that and that you can make it happen again.
On top of that, I want to remind you that sometimes, things get worse before they get better.
And if you don’t keep a journal, that won’t make what I’m about to show you any harder to do…
However, it will make it harder to believe.
Ask yourself these questions during your review, and think about a response. (You can write the answers that come to you, but you don’t have to.)
1) Have I ever done better than this? (You will again.)
2) Have things ever been worse than this? (Be grateful, and notice how far you’ve come.)
3) Am I even the slightest bit better than I was in the past? (The trend, then, is upward.)
These questions will help you get motivated to start recharging & refueling your sex and dating life.
And from there, here’s what you should do next:
14 Hacks to Jumpstart Your Sex & Dating Life
Again, you will know this better than me, but there are things you can do that make you feel good. These things might even make you feel like a brand-new man.
Yes, I know a BJ is on the top of the list for most guys… but there are also things you can do to recharge yourself that you have more control over.
So with that in mind, here are 14 simple activities to recharge yourself that have worked for both myself & my clients:
1) Visit a steam room, sauna or spa — or just take a nice hot bath…
2) Take a run in your favorite park…
3) Go see a concert, broadway show, or opera…
4) Listen to music you love…
5) Read a good book…
6) Watch a movie…
7) Take a long walk…
8) Spend time with your family — perhaps your younger nephews or nieces…
9) Take a long drive…
10) Play a sport…
11) Play games (chess, pool, video games, etc.)…
12) Work — or do other things you know you’re good at…
13) Spend time with your guy friends (not with any female friends you might have feelings for)…
14) And finally, do karaoke…
Ultimately, do the things that you know make you feel good, energized, and new.
What’s the Next Step?
Finally — but certainly only after you feel like you are refreshed and recharged — you want to put some fuel into your tank for the road ahead.
Take a couple days to relax and restart. Don’t force yourself into doing too much.
Just focus on yourself.
Because take it from me, man — dating today is hard. So it’s important to be prepared for whatever comes your way.
So what should you expect once you’re refreshed, recharged, refueled & ready to hit the scene?
Here’s just a taste from my personal experience…
How to Join the 6% of “Elite” Men Who Get Practically Any Woman They Want…
You and I both know that dating today can feel pretty frustrating… and at times, downright impossible.
In fact, one recent study found that 94% of men are still searching for their “perfect” woman…and what’s worse, they struggle to land dates with above-average women… which got me thinking:
What about the other 6% of men???
According to the study:
The other 6% of ‘elite’ men are getting up to a dozen dates a week… taking home their city’s most beautiful women on a regular basis… some even reported having threesomes with NFL cheerleaders… even though most of them are just ‘regular’ guys.”
How?
Well, they have access to a “Skeleton Key” of sorts… which shows them exactly what to say… where to go… and what to do… to achieve the “Ultimate Sexual Mastery” most men can only dream of.
Though I’ve gotta warn you… achieving this kind of “Ultimate Sexual Mastery” takes a little elbow grease… and it won’t happen overnight…
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