Best Woman on Top Sex Positions: Comfort & Pleasure First!

The best thing about jumping on top during sex is that you are the one in control of your own orgasm, but the woman on top sex position requires stamina and a hell of a lot of thigh strength… doesn’t it? Not necessarily. Here are a few sex tips and positions that will help you and your partner get more out of you being on top, without you having to die halfway through!

#1 The Standard Woman on Top Sex Position

Everyone knows how it goes… Your man lies down on the bed and you kneel over him so that he enters and you are sitting on top. He gets a great view of your torso and breasts. The mistake that most couples make with this position is that the man assumes the woman will simply bounce up and down on top of him until one of you climaxes; because this is what gives him the most stimulation. Any woman who has tried to do this for any length of time will know that no matter how long you bounce, it's not going to get you any nearer to your own climax; in fact, all its going to do is kill your thighs.So the key is to figure out how to ride a man without getting tired.

The key to a satisfying and prolonged woman on top sexual experience is to pace yourself and focus on doing what feels good for you, rather than try to guess how best to get your partner off. Don’t worry about him… Trust me, he’s happy. He is lying back on the bed with a hot naked girl on top of him and he hardly has to do a thing! So take the opportunity to concentrate on building up your own pleasure. The whole point of being on top is to be in control, so take control.

All women know that if you want to climax, it usually takes some form of friction on your clit or the front wall of your vagina where your G-Spot is. Bouncing up and down may feel good, but it is not going to get you anywhere on its own. Don’t let your boyfriend stop you from doing what feels natural while you are on top, and that is to grind your hips into him so that you are getting more stimulation for the areas that will help you reach your climax. Ask him to lie absolutely still if he isn’t behaving himself.

#3 The Rotating Grind

A good way to explore different sensations is to simply alter the direction of your grind. Your hips have the capacity to rotate in all directions, so why limit them to only grinding down on your man? Try making circular movements with your hips so that his penis stimulates the whole circumference of your vagina entrance. Try changing direction and going the other way. Try moving your hips like a Ferris wheel, first forwards and then backward; he will feel both sides of his penis being stimulated inside of you and you will be able to feel his penis slide along the walls of your vagina more prominently which will stimulate your G-Spot.

The great thing about using your hips for movement instead of bouncing up and down is that there is less pressure on your legs, so it takes less effort and you can focus more on your mounting pleasure than the fact that you are sweating buckets and your legs feel as if they are about to drop off!

#4 Reverse & Sidesaddle Cowgirl

If you face away from your partner while you are on top, you will give him a great view of your sexy back and butt. This woman on top sex position will allow you to lean forward slightly so that you are supporting yourself with your hands on the bed or on his legs. If you lean back, however, and arch your spine slightly, you will get better G Spot stimulation, and you can reach down between your legs to give yourself some simultaneous clitoral stimulation too, which will put you in control and help you reach your climax. Alternative you can face sideways so that you are straddling his leg. His leg will provide you with support and something to rub up against!

#5 The Frog

It might not sound very appealing, but some women prefer to crouch in a frog-like position when they are on top instead of kneeling on the bed. You can bring your legs closer together and if you hold your partner’s hands or if he supports you by placing his hands under your ass, then the bouncing movement can be easier in this position, and provide some pleasing alternative pleasure.

Allow your boyfriend to do the work here, and if he wants to hold you still while he thrusts like a maniac, let him. It will feel good for a while and stimulate the nerves in your vagina so that they are even more sensitive for when you come back down to your slow grind.

#6 The Intimate Woman on Top Sex Position

If you are intimidated by being so exposed when you are sitting on top of your man; not all women feel comfortable being on display, or if you feel that it isn’t romantic enough for you, then lie down on top of him instead. This will bring you much closer so that you can enjoy kissing each other, which is the main turn-on point for most women. You will also feel more turned on because of the closer proximity of your bodies because you be able to inhale each other's pheromones.

Allow your nipples to gently graze his chest and put your hands through his hair to make the most of the intimacy of this sex position. He can also run his hands along your body to bring all the nerve endings along your back, sides and buttocks to life. You can keep your knees bent so that you have more freedom to move away from him and sit up if you want to, or you can stretch your legs out and close them for a more snug fit. This is a slow and sensual sex position, and the slow friction on your clitoris and pubic area will build you up towards a powerful orgasm.

TIP: If you are open-minded enough, have your boyfriend graze your anus with his moist fingers for an exciting sensation that will intensify your pleasure. Or even get him to slip his lubricated finger inside while you are grinding against him with your clit, for an orgasm you will never forget.

How to Get the Woman-on-Top Sex Position Right

The woman-on-top sex position is a win-win situation. You get to control your own pleasure knowing that your man is enjoying himself too because you are on top doing all the legwork and he gets to watch!

Why do women love it so much?

Some women feel too exposed and they are not free enough with their own bodies to climb on top and take charge. Perhaps they feel shy or don’t like the idea of being in control. But once most women get the hang of it, they appreciate the woman-on-top sex position for the following reasons.

1. You control the depth of penetration
2. You control the angle of penetration
3. You control the pace of the sex
4. You control how much friction your clitoris gets
5. You can lean forward and enjoy some intimate kissing too!

Notice that all of these points include YOUR pleasure, but what about his?

Why do men love it so much?

A woman can be confident that the man underneath her is enjoying sex when she is on top too, for the following reasons.

1. They can just lie back and enjoy themselves
2. They get a great view of your breasts and stomach
3. Their hands are free to wander and caress
4. They get to see the pleasure on your face, which is a big turn on
5. If they want to take control they can just grab your hips and start thrusting upwards for deeper and often more vigorous stimulation.

The question is… are you doing everything you can to make sure that he is able to achieve all of this pleasure while you are on top focusing on your own pleasure?

How to do it right

If you want to gain ultimate sex-goddess status when you are in the woman-on-top sex position follow these steps to optimize pleasure for both of you.

1. When you sit up, sit up properly, so that your breasts are perky instead of hanging down in front of you. You want to give him the best view of you possible, right? Plus, when you sit up with better posture you stomach will automatically look flatter and you will be able to use your abs and PC muscles to intensify your own pleasure. You can even lean back a bit for a different angle and more G-Spot stimulation. If you lean back you will provide him with more space to see and play with your clit too!

2. Use a variety of different thrusts, when you vary the pace, angle, depth and direction of penetration you will keep him guessing and surprise both of you with different kinds of sensations. Keep in mind that what gets you off in this position isn’t necessarily what gets him off. He will automatically want you to move up and down because this gives the length of his penis the most stimulation, but you will get most of your stimulation from a grinding movement that provides you with more friction for your clitoris. A variety of different thrusts will keep you both happy.

3. When you bounce, be uninhibited. The main reason guys enjoy it when the woman gets on top is that they get to watch you. They get to watch you looking and feeling great which turns them on too. So don’t hold back in displaying your pleasure by letting your breasts bounce up and down. Lift your arms and pull your hair back so he can see the expression on your face as you bounce your way towards the climax.

As with everything new, start slowly and practice often. Soon you will be confident in yourself, you will know his pleasure points, and you will properly know how to ride your man.

Every woman has a trick or two up her sleeve when it comes to the well-tried-and-tested sex positions. Share your sexpertise with other YouQueen readers…

The Dirty Masseur Sex Position

Injecting Fantasy to Heat up a Sex Position

Sex positions can easily become too familiar, but the best way to spice them up is to add an element of fantasy. You might think that having sex while lying down on your front or back is fairly predictable, but what if you are placed naked on a table with towels underneath you, and perhaps one placed over the middle part of your body for modesty, and your boyfriend starts off by giving you a sensual massage?

In your head you can imagine that he is a professional masseur, so that when his hand ventures beneath the towel it feels even more exciting because of the forbidden aspect of being touched by a stranger in a professional setting!

What is the Dirty Masseur Sex Position?

Well really it is not a sex position, but a fantasy set-up, which has the potential for many sex positions. The main idea is that you lie on a flat surface, naked, either on your back or front, with a towel covering your chest and middle, and you boyfriend uses oil to massage you, first in a professional manner, and then in an inappropriate one.

If you are positioned at the right height, this is great for performing oral sex on your ‘Masseur’ after he has begun to touch you underneath the towels. You can roll over onto your front while he stands at the head of the table and unbuttons his trousers. He can also stand at the opposite end of the table and pull you towards him to have sex while you are lying back on the table, once the massage part of the game is over of course.

How to Heat it up…

To bring this fantasy to life you have to both pretend that you are meeting each other for the first time. The best way to build up anticipation is through conversation. You can make up details for your character during the non-sexual part of the conversation, and he can increase the anticipation by asking you if it feels good when he strokes the inside of your thigh, and continues to ask how you are feeling as his hand get dangerously close to your private parts. When you describe how something is making you feel it can turn you both on even more.

What Other Role-playing Games Do You Like to Play?

You can spice up any sex position with a bit of imagination. What role-playing games do you like to play? And how do they add extra excitement to your favourite sex positions?

Self Masturbation for Girls: Think Outside of the Box

You thought dildos and vibrators were the only objects you could use to pleasure yourself? Well, ladies around the world are getting more and more creative! Find out the crazy and unusual masturbation objects other women are using to get themselves off.

It's not that we're crazy, women are just very, very intelligent. It's pretty obvious that when it comes to finding different ways to pleasure ourselves, that we will use our kinky and sometimes rather absurd, but entirely genius imaginations!

Specially designed toys are great and they have their place, but there will always be those annoying moments when the battery runs out or you fancy a bit of a play but you're not necessarily at home.

I thought it would be interesting to find out exactly what types of objects other women are experimenting with, and come up with some innovative suggestions for your private sexual play sessions.

If you have any suggestions yourself please feel free to enlighten us in the comments section. The more weird and wonderful the better!

Anything That Vibrates!

There are all sorts of objects that produce an interesting variety of vibrations, so perhaps it isn't surprising that you lot are experimenting with far more than your vibrating bullets. When I was quite young and far too shy to purchase my own vibrator, the first vibrating object I tried out was my mobile phone.

I wasn't very sexually experienced so the vibrations, although not particularly strong, were a pleasant surprise. The only drawback was that my mobile phone didn't vibrate unless it was ringing.

So I had to call my mobile phone from my land-line in order to get it to vibrate… the things we do for a bit of pleasure! I bet my mother used to wonder why the phone was always off the hook on the landing and who it was dialing…

A woman I spoke to shared her early sexual experiences of vibrating objects with me, and the most unusual, I thought, was her Oral-B vibrating toothbrush. Yes, toothbrush. She had one head for her teeth, and a separate head for her clit.

My God, didn't that hurt?I exclaimed squirming and crossed my legs at the thought of my intimate areas getting a thorough minty scrub. She explained that at first she would use the back of the head, but that because her clitoris isn't that sensitive she soon built up to using the vibrating bristles.

She admitted that often she would become quite numb down there and then it was harder to bring herself to climax.

Another girl shared with me the joys of vibrating back massagers. As you can imagine there is a massive variety to choose from, as is articulated in that episode of Sex and the City where Samantha returns her massager because it failed to get her off! The girl I spoke to intrigued me with a description of how she uses hers.

She told me that she uses a cheap back massager that comprises of three vibrating balls positioned in the shape of a triangle. The three balls are essential, she explains, because while one ball is stimulating her vaginal opening, one of the other balls is stimulating her anus, which apparently brings a whole new level of pleasure to the table!

She said that she then uses her free hand and fingers to masturbate her clit. Sounds like fun, doesn't it? She purchased hers from a household general goods pound store for a quid and it runs on AAA batteries, in case your interested…

Edible Dildos

It makes sense that anything of the right shape can be a dildo substitute, so I wasn't too surprised when one woman I spoke to was so annoyed when her boyfriend was out of town and her mini-vibrator had lost it's steam, that she found herself routing through her fridge in search of a phallic replacement.

She pulled out a large carrot, washed it, then decided to use a condom over it – just in case – she didn't want any nasty yeast infection. I asked her what it felt like. Well it was freezing cold of course! She laughed. I soon warmed it up though…

Other women have used a variety of phallic-shaped fruits and veg, but after doing a bit of research I have decided that using edible penis substitutes isn't necessarily a good idea, particularly when I read about a woman who had to go to the A&E because she ended up with roots growing out of her vagina.

Apparently she had been told that “keeping a potato tucked away up her fanny would prevent pregnancy. What?!

Fun in the Tub

Power-shower nozzles appear to be the most popular alternative bathroom personal sex toy among women. If the mood is right though, you can pretty much use anything to rub against yourself and produce some surprisingly pleasurable results.

Anything you use is going to feel exciting because it's different. Sometimes it can even feel like you're being touched by someone else rather than yourself, which can be a turn on if you close your eyes and use your imagination.

The women I spoke to mentioned things like sponges and shampoo bottles. One of them described how she has a flat bottle lid that she keeps in the bathroom specially for rubbing against her clit, round and round in circles, building up pressure and sometimes tapping on it and releasing for a variety of pleasurable sensations.

Another admitted she had once, rather spontaneously used a soft body brush to bring herself to a pleasing clitoral climax.

The only problem with sexual stimulation in the bathroom of course is avoiding letting anything enter you that might upset the chemical balance of your vagina.

Your vagina is self-cleaning and produces its own bacteria and secretions to assist with this, but anything soapy could cause an imbalance which leaves your vagina's natural immunity exposed and vulnerable to nasty bacteria infections, which can be very unpleasant and take a few weeks sometimes to subside.

Safety First

You should always be careful when using objects that aren't specifically designed for sexual play, especially if you are inserting the object into your vagina, because you don't know what kinds of bacteria you are inserting along with it.

You can use condoms over the top of objects if that helps – and ribbed condoms certainly help! Or have designated objects used only for vaginal play, and make sure they are kept clean and that they are non-porous.

Other items can be used quite freely for outer stimulation though, feathers for instance can enhance the sensitivity of the whole of your intimate area, including other erogenous zones like your nipples.

It's Not What You Use – It's How You Use It!

Finding unusual objects for sexual stimulation isn't rocket science, but often it is where and how you use them that can lift your sexual experience to the next level. For example, if you lie on your bed on your back, it doesn't matter what you use down there, it's going to feel fairly bog standard.

If on the other hand, like Samantha from Sex and the City suggests, you mount a vibrating massager, the experience is going to be far more exciting.

Often it is easier to experiment with private fantasy when you physically place yourself in the scenario because then it becomes more realistic.

One woman happily admitted to the fact that she enjoyed placing various objects in her knickers so that when she is out and about she can feel things rubbing up against er… pleasure spots. She says it is particularly pleasurable when you have one of those egg-shaped sex toys actually inside of your vagina, and you can sit on a bus discretely manipulating it with your PC Muscles.

Another woman giggled and said she has a pair of very tight jeans, and whenever she wears them and sits down on a bus, every slight movement can be quite pleasurable, especially when she concentrates on the sensations being produced.

If you are playing with a vibrating object in bed, you might want to increase the excitement by tying one of your wrists tightly to the headboard, giving you a restrainer to resist against while you bring yourself to climax.

I knew someone who admitted to doing this, and she felt so wonderfully worn out and satisfied afterwards that she fell straight asleep and woke up the next morning wondering where she was and why she was tied up. Of course then she relived her fantasy all over again.

Masturbating in unfamiliar locations, even if they are still within the privacy of your home can add something different and enjoyable to the experience. For example, getting naked on a cold kitchen surface can feel quite erotic, masturbate on your front so that your nipples touch the cold surface!

How about masturbating standing up against the inside of the front door… especially if you are expecting your partner to arrive home any minute. Mirrors are often an exciting addition, or even windows if you are feeling daring and naughty.

Secretly record you and your partner's audio pleasure whilst having sex (use a voice recorder app on your smartphone and make sure you contribute more vocally than usual – he will probably appreciate that anyway!); then use the material the next day for your private masturbation session.

Listening to other people having sex can be a turn-on, and if it's you and your partner it will be even more sexy because you can relive the previous night's experience.

There are so many options to choose from, so don't be shy! Think outside of the box and spice things up a bit – we're sure you'll find toys and ways to bring yourself to a whole new level of pleasure.

How to Turn on a Cancer Man in Bed

Find out what makes your Cancer man tick, what he finds attractive in you, and learn how to turn him on in bed.

Did you know that Cancer men are among the most sensitive of all signs and that making other people happy is his greatest pleasure? It's good to know a Cancer man, that's for sure!

His caring nature makes him a great friend, and romantically speaking, your Cancer man is a real catch. He is one hundred per cent romantic, nurturing, intimate and devoted… really he is everything a woman needs to feel loved, special and emotionally secure.

What makes him really special is his ability to ignore all of your flaws and only see the good in you. This is definitely a man worth pulling out all the stops for if you want to experience an evening of emotionally fulfilling and romantic love-making.

The thing about Cancer men in the bedroom department is that they can come across as sexually innocent, but at the same time they possess a natural sensuality that you are bound to find irresistible!

You have to get past their sensitivity first, though. While his greatest pleasure is making other people happy, his greatest fear is making them unhappy, and this can mean that his approach is cautious.

He will keep his sexuality under wraps, harboring a fear of rejection, so don't expect his flirtation skills to be completely obvious at first. A more awkward attempt is likely. But his apparent coyness won't put you off at all, because underneath it you can just sense the deeper lusty part of his personality, and you will be eager to tap into it…

Getting to Know Your Cancer Man

Tapping into your Cancer man's sensuality isn't as straightforward as turning him on in the physical sense. It's very important to understand exactly what makes the sensitive ones tick, otherwise, you can risk fatal misunderstandings that could ruin all of your intimate plans, which would be a real shame, and you would certainly be missing out!

Besides, Cancer men are driven by their emotional needs which means that your feelings for him must be genuine and you must be emotionally generous if you want to experience something special with him in the bedroom.

Understanding his personality is a good place to start. Here are some pointers to be aware of…

1. He's probably not going to make the first move. If he does it's going to be subtle. Remember this a man with a pathological fear of rejection, and at the first sign of ridicule, he is going to run a mile. You need to make it very clear to him that there is nothing to fear and no risk involved. He needs to feel completely secure and trust that your feelings for him match his own.

2. He is a born romantic, which means his sexual needs are going to inevitably be routed in his romantic ideals. Know what you're getting into, because if he falls for you, he is likely to become deeply attached, possibly to the point of obsession. This guy loves forever and ever and ever and ever… just giving you a heads up in case that isn't what you're after!

3. His family will always come first. He is very loyal and devoted.

4. He has very deep-seated emotions, and if he is quite into you, he might run the risk of being a bit emotionally stifling and clingy. It is important to understand where this behavior is coming from and communicate with him, rather than detach yourself by criticizing him for caring.

5. He may be nurturing and receptive, but he is also wildly unpredictable and has a reputation for being somewhat emotionally stormy. His mood swings, hypersensitivity and tendency to hold grudges may be something you want to keep in mind. He also has an excellent memory, so watch out for that too! Patience will be a virtue.

Once you understand exactly what makes him tick, though, you can focus on using this information to bring out the best of him in the bedroom…

Cancer Men and Sex

Perhaps it is useful to keep in mind that to a Cancer man, love and sex are intertwined. He can't imagine just having sex with a woman, there has to be more to it, there must be romance. The Cancer man does not have sex with a woman, he makes love to her.

If you want to turn your Cancer man on, you have to tap into his romantic ideas and exploit them to the full. For most women this won't exactly be a chore because most of us love all that meaningful stuff, don't we?

It's important to get the mood right…

• Exotic and musky scents
• Rich foods
• Massage and oils
• The sound of running, bubbling water
• Luxury materials
• Comfortable temperatures
• Mood-enhancing lights

You will need to create an environment that he feels comfortable and safe in. Perhaps it is best to keep him in his own territory to make sure he doesn't feel out of his depth or let him take control of restaurant bookings.

Creating a romantic setting in places where there is water will make him feel at home because Cancer is a water sign. A candle-lit bath, for example, would be the perfect romantic setting to create an intimate connection between you both before you move onto the bedroom.

You should know how to turn him on. It is important to connect your Cancer man on an emotional level, which means taking the foreplay very slowly, and easing into your sexual play with lots of pillow talk and cuddles and caressing until you both feel connected and open to each other. Cancer men love tactile, soft and feminine women who show their affection by touching and caressing his face, and arms and hands.

Perhaps the biggest turn-on for a Cancer man is to feel needed. If you go out of your way in creating such a romantic setting, and take the time to connect with him on the emotional level that he needs, then he will feel that you also need this emotional reassurance from him, and he will be very willing to give it to you!

5 Things Cancer Men Love In Bed

1. Cancer men love to be spoiled in bed. They can actually be quite lazy. So it's good if you take initiative and show your submissive side. They just love being worshiped… that's why he'll probably go nuts if you give him a sexy, sensual and playful blowjob every now and then. All the way until the end. So he can just lie back and watch your performance.

2. Be feminine and submissive. It's an aphrodisiac. The more you can show your feminine energy, the more dominant he can feel. In general, cancer men can be very insecure, so if you are being too aggressive in bed that can turn him off. Instead, let him control you and be his “toy” for the night. Even better, tell him (you need to give him permission) that he can do whatever he wants with you and that you are his. Ownership turns him on.

3. Say the right words. Cancer men love that. The worst you can do is be totally quiet in bed (and then he doesn't get any feedback from you and starts overthinking things), or, even worse — say something that will turn him off. On the other hand, if you say the right words that make him feel ownership — that's when he can instantly have an orgasm, just based on a few dirty words. Here's how you can say the right words every time.

4. How you look. Cancer men are especially visual. They really like luxury and hedonism. And when they see you naked, they will be quite judgemental. They'll compare you to all the other women they've been with. Once they get used to a certain standard, they'll expect the same. So it's quite important that you don't gain extra weight when dating a Cancer man. Continually look better and better. Even just a few extra pounds can turn him off. This is especially the case once you spoil him already, he'll expect the best from then on. When you value your body and work out regularly, Cancer men really appreciate that and see it as some type of effort for keeping him. For Cancer men in bed, how you look is very connected with how you make him feel.

5. Cancer men love big booties. For them, it's a sign of your feminine energy and sexuality. Anyone can get a surgery done or get bigger breasts, but most men consider a bigger, firmer, rounder booty a sign that you work out regularly and take care of yourself. Cancer men appreciate this effort. And when they see you twerk that sexy booty in bed, they really, really want to own it. And keep it forever.

And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. The thing is… Cancer men don’t have to be that difficult, not at all. I’ve learned how to read (and please) the Cancer I liked from Anna Kovach’s Cancer Man Secrets, it’s crazy what a difference it can make to your relationship when you finally “get” him.