An Evolutionary Look At Why Women Fake Their Orgasms

Sex is certainly not as simple as some people make it out to be.  Just like us complicated humans, sex has layers.  So, when you hear about a woman faking her orgasm, she's not doing it to be difficult.  She's not trying to start problems.  In fact, every woman who's ever done this has her own reason, and it's none of your business.  As it turns out, though, faking an orgasm actually stems from an evolutionary trait, believe it or not.  For years, women faking orgasms do it for positive reasons, not negative.  Keep reading to discover the evolutionary reason women fake their orgasms.

Fakers. Listen, some women fake their orgasms. It happens, and they all have their own valid reasons for why this is the case. However, it turns out that faking orgasms isn’t just rooted in women trying to get things over with. In fact, according to evolution, at least, there’s actually a much more solid reason why women does this — and it actually has nothing to do with being even remotely selfish.

Faking to be nice. It turns out that women have sort of evolved to fake their orgasms in order to make their partners happy. According to Psychology Today, if a woman can’t reach an orgasm through sex with her male partner, then she’ll act as though he’s made her orgasm — even though he really hasn’t. She truly takes one for the team in this case.

More than sympathy. Now, even though this seems mostly based in sympathy, it’s actually a bit more selfish than you probably first assumed (though definitely no reason to feel bad about, by any means). They would do it they felt as though their man seemed eager to leave. By faking an orgasm, they held some power in locking him down.

Peacing out. Back in the day, even though it still totally felt pleasurable, men and women had sex to conceive. They had to make babies and populate the planet. That was their main M.O. So, if a guy wanted to leave the relationship, she would basically be like, “No, wait. Look. I’m orgasming. I can give you babies. So, yeah. Stay.”

Assuming the failure of conception. It turns out that men associated the female orgasm with conception. It was a sign that the sperm has pretty much been accepted into the woman’s body, and that a baby may very well be on the horizon. So, really, there was no reason to give up on a relationship if kids were in the near future.

Just stay, bae. Even though you might assume this kind of business is a little shady, women had to look out for themselves in the same they’d have to in any other time. Back then, the priorities were just a little different. So, if faking it meant that their guys would stay, then so be it. You do what you’ve got to do.

Faking it. These days, even though conception isn’t necessarily on everyone’s mind when it comes to having sex, women still fake it sometimes. But why? If there’s no legitimate reason to do it anymore (assuming you considered the aforementioned reason to be legitimate), then why bother?

The male ego. One of the reasons why women fake their orgams is because they’re trying to look out for the sensitivity that is a man’s ego. When it comes to sex, most men are especially sensitive, so if they feel as though they’re not satisfying their female partner enough, then it can make them feel defeated.

Hurting her man. “I swear to god, men play it off like they’re so tough. But they’re not. Like, not at all, especially when they’re having sex. I swear, when our clothes are off, he’s worried that he’s not big enough, he’s worried that he c*ms too soon, he even freaks out sometimes about the way he humps. Literally, that’s what he told me. How he humps. So, yeah, I’m not not going to fake it just because he can’t make me finish. It would kill him.” —Lana, 31

Exhaustion. One of the most relatable reasons why women might fake orgasms is because the guy is just taking too long. When you’ve been going at it, and you’re kind of just over it, you’re not hurting anyone by faking an orgasm. You’re pretty much just clocking out, which pretty much everyone can relate to.

Are we there yet? “I’m sorry, but I just can’t climax just from sex. I need my man to really get up in there. Otherwise, it’s just, we have sex, he finishes and I don’t. That’s it. Since he ends up taking so damn long sometimes, I feel like if I just pretending I’m done, it’ll get him going. Which it does.” —Amy, 27

Meeting in the middle. Jumping off of what Amy said, this is a popular reason why some women fake their orgasms: out of sheer convenience. If you don’t orgasm as it is, then simply doing it to coax your partner into doing it can get things wrapped up rather nicely. Otherwise, it can be a potentially endless ordeal.

Frustration. While this isn’t really a popular reason, faking an orgasm can also be a clear sign that something isn’t working in the relationship. For example, a woman might fake it because she’s having doubts about where the relationship is going, but is still willing to try.

Done. “Right around the time that I was deciding to call things off with my now ex, we were still having sex, but I just wasn’t into it anymore. I mean, the sex itself was fine, but I started to feel less connected to him. So I started faking it more often, and pretty early into the sex, which he started to catch onto.” —Audrey, 35

The benefit of being a woman. When it comes to faking it, women really have the upperhand. Sure, guys can attempt to fake it, but unless they’ve won an Oscar in the past, chances are they won’t be able to get away with it. It’s pretty damn obvious when a guy finishes… what with the semen and all.