Are You Making These Common Oral Sex Mistakes? Here Are The Solutions

Ever try to do that deep throat thing during oral?  Stop it. Unless you have the gag reflex of Alexis Texas, it’s not fun.  Not to mention, not all dudes want to listen to you straight-up choking on their penis.  Here, we list eight common BJ mistakes — and how to fix them.

Using teeth. Lesson numero uno: Never, ever use your teeth. Teeth have no place in, on, or even near someone’s genitals. On that note, don’t bite either. Pro tip: Try pulling your lips over your teeth and pretend like you’re sucking on a yummy popsicle. Also, make sure you’re making some eye contact from time to time, and that you’re actually enjoying down down on him. Yeah, forcing yourself to perform oral is definitely something you should never do. This should be enjoyable for not just him, but you as well.

Actually blowing. Simply put, BJs are for sucking, not blowing. Don’t. Blow. Like, ever. Side note: Make sure there’s enough spit! You know how friction can be uncomfortable and painful when you’re not wet enough? Well, same goes for a penis. it doesn’t have to be suuuuper wet, just make sure it’s not TOO dry.

Going too fast. Nothing about oral should be fast — he wants to savor it, so let yourself linger. Take it an inch at time, so to speak. Lick his penis like you’re licking an ice cream cone. Get into a groove, and create a study rhythm to build and sustain excitement. Then, show him how much you’re into it. Showing your genuine enthusiasm about performing oral is a huge turn-on!

Changing up the rhythm. Think it’s a good idea to switch things up when your guy is about to climax? It’s not. Just don’t. If your guy is into what you’re doing and is about to orgasm, don’t change what you’re doing! Always remember to stick with whatever movement you’re doing that is working. Things you can try to switch things up a bit: digging your fingernails into him, or tightening the grip of your mouth.

Going too hard. Contrary to popular belief, men are delicate creatures. And their penis? Well, that’s an extra delicate place. Go too rough on him, and he probably won't let you go down on him anymore — and you don’t want that! While you should gradually increase the speed and intensity of your movements, don’t use too much force. Slow and steady wins the race, remember?

Lack of exploration. His penis is literally right in front of your face — in your mouth, to be exact. Why wouldn’t you want to explore it? His frenulum contains a bunch of nerves, so you can try flicking it with the tip of your tongue, or circling the head of his penis slowly. Whatever you do, take the time to discover all the different pleasure spots on his body. He’ll be sure to return the favor.

Not using your hands. Improper hand usage is a big no-no. Essentially, all blowies should involve hands as an extension to the mouth. Ladies, don’t be afraid to grab firmly (don’t rip it off, though) at the base and use some pressure. Rotate the hand and change pressure, speed and/or length of stroke. Make sure you read his responses so that you know whether or not you should continue!

Always sticking to one thing. Every now and then, you need to mix things up. Try different techniques, either with your mouth or hands — or both. Is he always lying on the bed while you go down him? Have him sit on a chair, or straddle you. Incorporate some toys, moan louder, or blindfold him. Doing the same old thing can get boring — not just for him, but for you as well — so don’t be shy to spice things up!