Common Issues Couples Have With Sex

Sex should be as simple as it is fun, right? Though we're all certainly filled with high hopes when we enter the bedroom, strip down and get under the covers with our significant other, perfection isn't always in the cards. More often than not, there are common issues that pretty much every couple can relate to when they're getting ready to partake in some bumping and grinding Road bumps can show up anywhere. The silver lining to sexual issues is that most (if not all) couples can relate to them.  So if you and your parter are struggling, you're not alone. Keep reading to learn more about common issues couples have with sex.

Being in the mood. It doesn’t matter how great something feels — if you’re not in the mood for it, you’re not in the mood for it. This can be a constant struggle for couples, especially when their schedules are completely off.

Finding the time. The older you get, the less responsibility you should have to deal with. But that’s not the case. Not by a long shot. When you haven’t exactly got the time for sex, the chances of it happening as frequently as you’d like grows slimmer and slimmer.

Laziness. Getting some people in the mood is like pulling teeth. Believe it or not, some people are so invested in doing as little as humanly possible that they ignore one of the most important aspects of a relationship. When you ignore the fundamental parts of a relationship, you may as well be on your way out the door — for good.

Tied down. When you feel trapped in a relationship, that may be a pretty clear indicator that you should probably move on. However, not everybody takes that cue. They end up feeling stuck in the relationship and stuck with sex that they’re not even completely into. It’s all just a waste of time to them.

Openness. Don’t hold back with your partner. Try new things. When it comes to having sex, there are so many ways you can explore it, so don’t cower away from new experiences. You just may end up discovering new about yourself that you never even knew existed.

Comparing it to others. We always assume that someone else is so much happier than we are. It’s the curse of being human. What’s worse is when that way of thinking is brought into the bedroom, assuming your sex life will never live up to someone else’s.

Lack of communication. If you can’t communicate with your own partner, then there are bigger problems than what’s wrong in the bedroom. This lack of communication is likely extending outside of the bedroom and in all the other areas of your relationship. So if you can’t tell your partner what you want, then you may need to dig deeper to find the real root of the problem.

Dominance. If you don’t like being dominated in the bedroom, but that’s just how your partner rolls, there’s going to be some issues. It’s inevitable. Wherever people stand in terms of submissiveness or dominance, they’re unlikely to change roles.

Keeping it up. There’s nothing more stressful for a guy in the bedroom than if his boner doesn’t stay a boner. To make matters worse, simply stressing over losing an erection will play an enormous role in keeping it down. It’s pretty much a vicious cycle.

Boring sex. Here four words you should never associate with sex: “Run of the mill.” When sex gets boring, it kind of loses its point. Sure, your genitals will feel A+, but there’s so much more to sex than getting off. If you can’t keep things spicy in the bedroom, one of you needs to get the ball rolling.

Getting it up. Some guys have this issue. In fact, a lot of guys have this issue. E.D. is super common, even though it’s unfortunately so, and, obviously, if there’s no erection, there’s no sex — so the problem really speaks for itself. This is something that needs medical attention.

Accidental pregnancy. As fun as sex is, it can also be terrifying. Though most people would welcome a baby with open arms, even one that was never planned for, changing your entire life just because you got horny is not always an ideal situation. This fear alone can add some considerable weight onto relationship stress levels.

Not enough. In a relationship, there’s a solid chance that one partner may want sex way more than the other. It all comes down to how they’re wired. Though this may not seem like such a big deal, it can actually cause quite a rift between partners, resulting in major incidences of frustration.

Adult entertainment. Couples watching porn is totally healthy and totally fun. Like anything else, however, it can be abused. If your partner needs adult entertainment to get off with you, then you may as well raise the red flags yourself. There’s a problem — an evident problem — and it should be addressed as soon as possible.

Feeling jaded. Feeling "over it" isn't exactly a rare feeling. We all go through it every now and then. But when it comes to sex with your partner, that can be the sign of something worse to come. Couples who feel like they lost the spark may need to figure out a way to rekindle what they used to have before they just grow more and more tired of each other.