User tbucket94. “I actually dated quite a few women back in junior high/high school. Ranging from a week to a year. It was my way of convincing myself (amongst others) that I was straight. It pretty much ruined my relationships with most of them but they weren't good company to have around anyway.”
User mrsnarf. “I did it because I did not want to accept that I was gay. I longed to be "normal" (straight) so bad that I thought that I could pretend to be straight and be happy. I had this idea in my head that my whole family would reject me if I didn't marry a woman and didn't have kids. I thought I was going to be a disappointment. Knowing you are gay is easy; accepting that you are and cannot change is harder.”
User timetide. “I dated a girl for 2 weeks in middle school. We both went into it knowing I was a gay guy but I was trying to explore and figure myself out. She had all the traits and interest I was looking for in a guy, but with a vagina and incoming boobs. Needless to say after 2 weeks we both determined that I was definitely attracted to men, especially after she found me making out with her older brother.”
User RedBalloonKnot. “I dated a girl in middle school. Here's the worst story and then an explanation after: We went to see a scary movie, she turned to me and asked if she could hold my hand, I basically told her to hold the cup-holder. I felt the need to not be outed until I met a guy at least. That never really happened until college but I got sick of being closeted. I'm friends with her now, she's a bit tapped but we always got along. I don't really feel guilty but I guess I probably should?”
User ConroConro. “In high school I would get pressured by friends to date girls who I liked talking to because friends thought we should date (I didn't come out until senior year) so eventually I'd just follow along and go for it even though I had no sexual or romantic interest in them whatsoever.”
User ruskitaco. “Denial and ignorance about oneself is probably why I did it. Do I regret it? Kinda. Especially considering I had lots of crushes on a lot of really cute boys and always grew up in very accepting communities, so I really had no reason NOT to come out. They were never very long relationships, I never had sex with any of them and only one of them ever called me out for gayness. I have 0 guilt about it though. sexuality is an exploration and sometimes you don't find what you're looking for. Coincidentally, my first gf (the only one I really cared about, tbh) told me long after we'd broken up and I'd come out to her that almost all of her boyfriends end up being gay. Crazy, right?”
User Hedonester . “I did it because I couldn't understand why not. I went from bicurious to bisexual to gay over the course of about four years, and during those 4 I dated one girl and hooked up with quite a few. Most of it was because I couldn't accept that I was gay, since to me that meant accepting I could never have the two and a half kids, house in the suburbs type life when I was older. (Which was pretty much exactly what I wanted.)”
User thehappypenguins. “As awful as it sounds, I think I did it somewhat as a self discovery type thing. I wanted to see what it was like. The girl was very nice and we were good friends, which probably makes it worse, but she found someone she loves in the end while I just came to accept myself as gay like six months ago, so I guess it worked out better for her in the end.”
User putulio2. “Yes, I dated a few women before I came out, and yes, I do regret it quite a bit. Now, when I explain myself, know that I am in no way excusing myself, just explaining why I believe I did it. Mostly I would would blame fear. I thought if I had a girlfriend, no one would ever question that I was gay. In my young eyes, that's what a "normal" person would do. What really makes me feel bad about it, is that when I was doing I never really thought how that might effect them later.”
User frzferdinand72. “I dated a girl in my 8th grade year, frankly out of peer pressure. Everyone was getting into relationships, so I figured why not. It lasted three months, she gave me a quick peck on the lips, and that was my first kiss. We broke up after we moved on from middle school. I came out my freshman year of high school, and she turned out to be lesbian. We laugh and cringe whenever we reminisce back to middle school.”
User KeitaEdelstein. “I 'dated' girls when I was in school, before I even realised I'm gay. I say 'dated' because it was before I had really developed sexual attractions, so they were more like good friendships. It was like 'Hey, we share a lot of interests and enjoy each others company, does this make us boyfriend and girlfriend?'. I never kissed any of them. Still, I'm friendly with them all and one of them is one of my best friends.”
User Marshmarshbacon. “Not exactly but when I first came out in middle school, I came out as "bisexual" which was my way of lessening the blow somehow when people asked. Since then a few female friends have confessed that they liked me and I had to turn them down. I felt like a douche for not making it known from the beginning that I am 100 percent gay. It would have saved a few hearts from breaking and a few friendships from being ruined along the way.”
User Deharke. “For me it was because I thought I was bi (I am not, I am gay) and I REALLY wanted to be straight. I had a great friend and we got close but I decided to ask her out. It's selfish but I wanted to see if maybe I was straight. It was mainly off of denial and not wanting to be gay. I love who I am now but high school was a weird time.”
User captainbrony2013. “I didn't really date but I made out with more or less five girls AFTER i came out in the first years of high school and it was more of like the fake lesbian kiss girls do with other girls. Word got around about this and even if i'm a senior now and my straight friends think i'm straight or at least bi no matter how many times i tell them i'm gay.”
User SmartieLion. “I dated a couple girls in my freshman year of highschool. Between freshman and sophmore year I decided being gay was what i wanted, and never dated chicks again. I dont really regret anything about it, I just made a choice.”
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