Why You Shouldn’t Use Sex As A Weapon With Your Partner

Just because you've got the ammo doesn't mean you should load the weapon, let alone  it.  When it comes to your body, nothing that's part of your anatomy should be considered a weapon, no matter how similar to a missile it might look.  Keep reading to find out why you shouldn't use sex as a weapon with your partner.

Don't abuse the respect. You and your partner have something serious between the two of you. It deserves more than threats, even when that threat has to do with sex. Or even especially when it has to do with sex.

Sex should never be part of your arguments. Sex is important. It should be respected by both parties. When you keep it sheathed like a sword in battle, you're putting yourself in control. You're giving yourself too much control. That control ought to be mutual.

You're more than sex. If the only way you can control a situation is through sex, then you've got some issues you need to deal with. Resorting to sex as a weapon is just showing your weaknesses. You're much better than that, or you at least can be.

You're hiding behind your problems. Why are you in need of an emotional weapon at all? You should be confident enough in yourself to know that there is more to you than just sex. Face the issue. Address the problem with your partner and attack it together, even if it seems difficult at first.

This will only drive you both apart. Work together, even when you're disagreeing. Even when you argue about something, you're still both partners. If you're really that incompatible, maybe this relationship isn't working. If it is, then you shouldn't be splitting the both of you apart. It's counterproductive.

It's immature. You're better than this. You're also too old to be resorting to petty measures to "fix" a problem. People who resort to extremes are showing people that they obviously can't handle the situation. Don't be like that. It's not cute.

It'll only make things worse. When you pull stunts like this, you're only adding more fuel to the fire. You're exacerbating what ought to be fixable. Don't push your partner away. Try to work with them, even when they're driving you crazy.

Sex will feel strange when it happens. You're not holding your partner on a leash. At least... you shouldn't be. If you're using it as a weapon, it's not going to feel right when you actually give in. Your partner will feel as though they're a parrot getting a cracker. It won't feel the way sex should feel.

You're basically punishing yourself. Unless you're cheating or you can store your libido like a camel stores water, you're going to want to get off sooner or later. That's a big part of why you're in a relationship in the first place. Intimacy. Using it as a weapon isn't doing you any favors.

It's not actually aiding the problem. Ask yourself what this sex weapon business is actually doing. Is it effective? No. There's no way it is. Not for you, not for your partner, not for anyone. You're just making things worse.

It's making your relationship feel forced and fake. If sex is the most significant part of your relationship, then something is seriously wrong. Humans are better than that, and if you don't see that, then maybe you're just not ready for a relationship. You need to grow up.

It's just proving how manipulative you are. It's not cute when you use sex as your weapon, it just seems like you need to be in control and you're desperate to gain it by any means necessary. This is reflective of you as a whole, and you can do better. You should take some time to reevaluate your motives.

You're basically telling your partner that sex is all that you have. When sex is what you're resorting to to win a lover's spat, then something is wrong. You're more than your body. You've got ideals, morals, feelings. Use those if you must, not sex.

You're just making both of you super frustrated. When you're not having sex, you're more likely to get frustrated. That's just how humans work. Hell, that's even how animals work. So save yourself the stress and don't sink down to those levels.